Get Rid of Your Fears and Finally Attract the Girls That You Like

Would you like to learn how to finally attract the girls that you like? Well, truth be told, this will entirely depend on you. While there are a ton of different methods on attracting girls out there, it would really be best not to depend on these approaches and just focus on yourself instead.

To start, think about why you always get rejected by girls. Is it because you don’t try? Is it because you give up every time you get upset after a rejection? Generally speaking, if you keep failing in the dating department, then you are probably lacking in both faith and confidence. This is usually what brings about the fear of rejection and fear of success to begin with.

If you want to finally attract the girls that you like, but are terribly scared of rejection, then you need to change things around as soon as possible. If you tend to play rejection scenes in your head before you even approach a girl, then you have to remind yourself that the real world doesn’t work like that just because you experienced a few rejections in the past. Besides, if you don’t let girls downsize you, then they won’t be able to. It’s as simple as that.

Even if you have a fear of success, on the other hand, you still won’t be able to finally attract the girls that you like. If you tend to look at girls and instantly envision a future, wherein you end up in a relationship and she breaks your heart eventually, then it isn’t any wonder why you are failing with girls.

In fact, no matter what kind of fear you suffer from; if it is stopping you from approaching girls and winning them over, then you have to make some changes in your life. Think about why you let your negative thoughts control you and figure out how you can get rid of your fear.

While a fear of failure may save you from instant pain of rejection, it will also stop you from experiencing any happiness that a loving and meaningful relationship may bring you. On that note, a fear of success may save you from future heartbreak, but it will also stop you from having relationships to begin with. If you really want to finally attract the girls that you like, then the best thing to do would be to channel your subliminal mind and the female subliminal mind and control them from within to get the results that you want.

How To Get Confidence Chatting To Girls, How To Get Girls To Run To You Not Away From You

Would you like to know how to get confidence chatting to girls. The most common reason men don’t approach women it the fear of rejection, low confidence prevents many men from walking up to the girl of their dreams and asking her out.

They are crippled by fear of rejection, they don’t know the right things to say and their nerves make them feel ill.

One good thing is that you can do something about this and you are willing to learn. It will take some effort, you will have to step outside your comfort zone to build confidence but the end result will be worth it.

Remove the Pedestal. Don’t put women on pedestal. They are human too, just because they are beautiful and perfect on the outside does not mean they do not suffer from the same insecurities as everyone else. Don’t think she is too beautiful for you or that she would never want to go out with you. Think of all the good qualities you have, believe that you can have and deserve to have any girl you want. Women love confidence, until you build your confidence act as if you have it.

Getting Over The Nerves. When you are nervous, the body sends the blood to the legs and arms for the fight or flight response. The blood is being transferred away for the stomach and all internal organs giving the feeling of the stomach churning or butterflies. This is a chemically reaction and happens to every one.

There are two ways to counteract this reaction.

Get out of your comfort zone. Keep chatting to girls until it is second nature. Set yourself a target, you will talk to every woman you meet for 5 minutes, every day for two months. Young, old, fat, slim, ugly, beautiful, talk to every woman like she is your best friend.

Initially this will seem difficult but by the end of two months you will have conquered your nerves and build your confidence in chatting to girls.

Learn to Channel the Nerves. Some one shared this method with me once and I have used it many time to help me control the butterflies. You know now that it is an automatic response of the body to send the blood flow away form internal organ to the external limbs. There are many time where you will feel nervous and the butterflies will be churning in your stomach. Imagine the butterflies are flying in formation across your stomach.

Now you can use them to channel the nerves in a positive way making you more alert.

It will take practice to build your confidence. What are you confident at doing, how did you become that way? Usually it takes practice to do things automatically and with confidence. Transfer the skills you used to gain confidence in one area to other areas in your life, and you will be amazed how confident you will become.

The Habit of Masturbation in Girls

Masturbation is a term applied to a bad habit which consists in handling and rubbing the genitals. It is a bad habit because it is apt to injure the health and future development of the girl. The more frequently it is practiced, the more injurious it is. It is more injurious than when practiced by boys, because the effects are usually more permanent. Girls who indulge in the habit of masturbation to excess not only weaken themselves, become anemic and get a dingy, pimply complexion, but they lose their desire for normal sexual relations when they grow up, and are unable to derive any pleasure from the sexual act when they get married. Many girls who masturbated excessively get a strong aversion to the normal sexual act, and their married life is an unhappy one.

The habit is much less widespread among girls than it is among boys. The girl who value her health, her beauty and proper growth and mental development, should not indulge in it.

The behavior of parents – The behavior of some parents when they discover that their child is fondling its genitals or indulging in masturbation, they feel as if a great calamity had befallen them. Imbued with the medieval idea of the sinfulness of the habit, as well as its injuriousness, they begin to scold the child, to frighten it, to make it believe that it is doing something terrible, that it has disgraced them and itself, and they try to persuade it that, unless it stops immediately, the most direful consequences are awaiting for her. The result of this mode of procedure is disastrous, much more so than is the masturbation itself.

The parents and physicians should learn that the injuriousness of the habit has been greatly and grossly exaggerated. It is time that they know that the vast majority of boys and girls get over the habit without being much or any, the worse for it. If the matter is look at in a sensible and common sense way, to tell the child caught in the practice that it has done something disgracefully vicious and criminal, but speak to the child kindly and tell him or her that what he or she is doing may secure serious injury, that it may interfere with his or her future mental and physical health and development, then they shall have far greater success in their endeavors to break the boy or girl of the habit.

Denouncing even the most moderate indulgence in masturbation as a vice has an injurious effect upon the person who so indulge and makes it harder for her to break off the habit. The victims of the habit consider themselves degraded, irretrievably lost. They lose their self-respect, and on the account of that, makes it harder for them to break themselves from the habit.

The prevention of the habit – One of the major ways of preventing the habits is to carefully watch the child from its earliest infancy. Although, oftentimes, the vicious or stupid nursemaids, governesses, ignorantly or maybe deliberately, induce the habit in children under their charge and this of course must be prevented. The children from the age of nine, ten and eleven years old should not always be left alone, but always being under supervision. And also too close friendship between boys and girls, especially of different ages, should be looked upon with suspicion.

The sleeping together of two in the same bed, whether it be two children or a older person and a child, should not be permitted under any circumstances. The child, either boy or girl should sleep alone, on a rather hard mattress, and the covering should be light. A decorative bedspread maybe put over the feet. The child should always sleep with the arms out upon the cover and never under. If this practice is started in a child from childhood, it will be very easy to get used to the way of sleeping, and many case of masturbation will be rid-off.

If any attempt is made to watch the child, he should be so carefully surrounded by vigilance that he cannot possibly transgress without detection. If he is only partially watched, he will soon learns to elude observation, and thus the effect is only to make him cunning in his vice.

Hot baths are also very injurious for young children in their influence in the case of masturbation. Even on adults, a hot bath has a stimulating effect upon their sexual desire. Every factor which is liable to give rise to the habit of masturbation should be removed. Some people will abstain from handling themselves with their hands, but will practice what is known as mental masturbation. Which is, they will concentrate their minds on the opposite sex, and will picture to themselves various lascivious scenes, until they feel satisfied. This method is extremely injurious and exhausting and is very likely to lead to neurasthenia and a nervous breakdown. This habit is even more injurious than the regular habit.

In adults or youths, a different plan must be pursued. Moral considerations, and the inevitable consequences to health of body and mind, are the chief influences by which a reform is to be effected. The considerations may be urged with all possible eloquence and earnestness, but should not be exaggerated. If there are any special influences which may be brought to bear upon a particular individual, these should be promptly employed and applied in such a manner as to secure for them their full bearing. But although, the most to be done, must be by the individual himself. All that others can do for him is to surround him with favoring circumstances and arouse him to a proper sense of his real condition and danger. If this can be thoroughly accomplished, there is much reason to hope, but if the individual has become so lost to all sense of purity, all aspirations toward good and noble objects, that he cannot be made to feel the need of reformation, then his case has become hopeless.

Work is also an excellent remedy, work that will really make the victim very tired, so that when he goes to bed he will have no disposition to defile himself.

How a person can help himself.

I. Begin the work of reform by purging the mind. If a lewd thought enters the mind, dispel it at once. Cultivate a loathing for concupiscence. Never harbor such ideas for an instant, for they will surely lead to overact. If peradventure, the physical sin should not be committed, the thought itself is sin, and it leaves a physical as well as a moral scar almost as deep and hideous as that inflicted by the grosser crime.

II. Avoid solitude, for then is when temptation comes, and you are most likely to fail. Avoid equally all other causes which may lead to the act.

III. As a help to purity of mind, whenever impure thoughts enter, immediately direct the mind upon the purest object with which you are acquainted. Flee from the special exciting cause, if there is one, and engage in some active labor or other exercise that will divert the mind into another channel.

IV. Strictly comply with all the rules laid down for the cultivation of chastity and the maintenance of continence.

V. And above all, seek for grace and help from the source of all spiritual strength in every time of temptation, relying upon the promise, “seek, and ye shall find.”