The Habit of Masturbation in Girls

Masturbation is a term applied to a bad habit which consists in handling and rubbing the genitals. It is a bad habit because it is apt to injure the health and future development of the girl. The more frequently it is practiced, the more injurious it is. It is more injurious than when practiced by boys, because the effects are usually more permanent. Girls who indulge in the habit of masturbation to excess not only weaken themselves, become anemic and get a dingy, pimply complexion, but they lose their desire for normal sexual relations when they grow up, and are unable to derive any pleasure from the sexual act when they get married. Many girls who masturbated excessively get a strong aversion to the normal sexual act, and their married life is an unhappy one.

The habit is much less widespread among girls than it is among boys. The girl who value her health, her beauty and proper growth and mental development, should not indulge in it.

The behavior of parents – The behavior of some parents when they discover that their child is fondling its genitals or indulging in masturbation, they feel as if a great calamity had befallen them. Imbued with the medieval idea of the sinfulness of the habit, as well as its injuriousness, they begin to scold the child, to frighten it, to make it believe that it is doing something terrible, that it has disgraced them and itself, and they try to persuade it that, unless it stops immediately, the most direful consequences are awaiting for her. The result of this mode of procedure is disastrous, much more so than is the masturbation itself.

The parents and physicians should learn that the injuriousness of the habit has been greatly and grossly exaggerated. It is time that they know that the vast majority of boys and girls get over the habit without being much or any, the worse for it. If the matter is look at in a sensible and common sense way, to tell the child caught in the practice that it has done something disgracefully vicious and criminal, but speak to the child kindly and tell him or her that what he or she is doing may secure serious injury, that it may interfere with his or her future mental and physical health and development, then they shall have far greater success in their endeavors to break the boy or girl of the habit.

Denouncing even the most moderate indulgence in masturbation as a vice has an injurious effect upon the person who so indulge and makes it harder for her to break off the habit. The victims of the habit consider themselves degraded, irretrievably lost. They lose their self-respect, and on the account of that, makes it harder for them to break themselves from the habit.

The prevention of the habit – One of the major ways of preventing the habits is to carefully watch the child from its earliest infancy. Although, oftentimes, the vicious or stupid nursemaids, governesses, ignorantly or maybe deliberately, induce the habit in children under their charge and this of course must be prevented. The children from the age of nine, ten and eleven years old should not always be left alone, but always being under supervision. And also too close friendship between boys and girls, especially of different ages, should be looked upon with suspicion.

The sleeping together of two in the same bed, whether it be two children or a older person and a child, should not be permitted under any circumstances. The child, either boy or girl should sleep alone, on a rather hard mattress, and the covering should be light. A decorative bedspread maybe put over the feet. The child should always sleep with the arms out upon the cover and never under. If this practice is started in a child from childhood, it will be very easy to get used to the way of sleeping, and many case of masturbation will be rid-off.

If any attempt is made to watch the child, he should be so carefully surrounded by vigilance that he cannot possibly transgress without detection. If he is only partially watched, he will soon learns to elude observation, and thus the effect is only to make him cunning in his vice.

Hot baths are also very injurious for young children in their influence in the case of masturbation. Even on adults, a hot bath has a stimulating effect upon their sexual desire. Every factor which is liable to give rise to the habit of masturbation should be removed. Some people will abstain from handling themselves with their hands, but will practice what is known as mental masturbation. Which is, they will concentrate their minds on the opposite sex, and will picture to themselves various lascivious scenes, until they feel satisfied. This method is extremely injurious and exhausting and is very likely to lead to neurasthenia and a nervous breakdown. This habit is even more injurious than the regular habit.

In adults or youths, a different plan must be pursued. Moral considerations, and the inevitable consequences to health of body and mind, are the chief influences by which a reform is to be effected. The considerations may be urged with all possible eloquence and earnestness, but should not be exaggerated. If there are any special influences which may be brought to bear upon a particular individual, these should be promptly employed and applied in such a manner as to secure for them their full bearing. But although, the most to be done, must be by the individual himself. All that others can do for him is to surround him with favoring circumstances and arouse him to a proper sense of his real condition and danger. If this can be thoroughly accomplished, there is much reason to hope, but if the individual has become so lost to all sense of purity, all aspirations toward good and noble objects, that he cannot be made to feel the need of reformation, then his case has become hopeless.

Work is also an excellent remedy, work that will really make the victim very tired, so that when he goes to bed he will have no disposition to defile himself.

How a person can help himself.

I. Begin the work of reform by purging the mind. If a lewd thought enters the mind, dispel it at once. Cultivate a loathing for concupiscence. Never harbor such ideas for an instant, for they will surely lead to overact. If peradventure, the physical sin should not be committed, the thought itself is sin, and it leaves a physical as well as a moral scar almost as deep and hideous as that inflicted by the grosser crime.

II. Avoid solitude, for then is when temptation comes, and you are most likely to fail. Avoid equally all other causes which may lead to the act.

III. As a help to purity of mind, whenever impure thoughts enter, immediately direct the mind upon the purest object with which you are acquainted. Flee from the special exciting cause, if there is one, and engage in some active labor or other exercise that will divert the mind into another channel.

IV. Strictly comply with all the rules laid down for the cultivation of chastity and the maintenance of continence.

V. And above all, seek for grace and help from the source of all spiritual strength in every time of temptation, relying upon the promise, “seek, and ye shall find.”

Item Girls and Cheerleaders!

The buzzword nowadays is marketing, in all forms of products and services. For marketability you need loads of glamor quotients that generate the required publicity or the desired hype. And as always, glamor is closely associated with beautiful women.

Creativity in marketing amounts to an uncanny ability of the advertisers to link everything under the sun to beautiful women or hot girls. East or west, this women-centric perception of glamorization is growing. There has to be a distinct success quotient associated with this process, else the progression would not go on.

Indian cinema in the Hindi language, popularly known as Bollywood covering mostly mainstream movies, has been the glamor storehouse with its heroes, heroines, vamps, villains and elaborately choreographed song and dance sequences. For obvious glamor reasons Bollywood had been increasing its links with the fashion industry too in recent times. Models are game always for both heroines and vamps in movies and they are the quickest to get established in the film world.

The Bollywood producers and directors want to generate maximum publicity and hype particularly before big movie releases. So, they have often adopted the concept ‘item numbers’ which means a technocratic and madly orchestrated dance sequence. This particular sequence has no relevance to or bearing on the main plot, the only motive being more effective marketing. The lead dancers in the ‘item numbers’ is called ‘item girls’.

Item numbers have created a distinct profession of item girls who may or may not ultimately become leading ladies. But doused in glamor they are hugely successful in terms of money, career and exposure. Basically an item girl, Rakhi Sawant has become a raging sensation in India thanks to her reality shows on television one of which even featured Rakhi as a prospective bride and married her off before the whole nation.

With millions of cricket lovers around Indian Cricket is marketed most aggressively by the richest cricket board of the world, the Board of Control for Cricket in India (BCCI), and it was just a matter of time before Cricket and Movies sized each other up. A mutually inclusive relationship started between them and that led to mega movie stars watching live cricket matches getting a lot of attention from the glamor hunting media while movies started having stories plotted on cricket. For glamor marketing enough was never enough though.

Like the normally three-hour Bollywood movies, the BCCI invented the Indian Premiere League (IPL) in the shortest T20 format of cricket where matches get completed in exactly three hours. Such cricket movies have to be showered with glamor. So, the BCCI introduced cheerleaders in IPL matches. Cheerleaders are basically athletic and attractive girls who cheer on every major happening in a cricket match by dancing and gesticulating ferociously. Essentially the cheerleaders substituted for the item girls of movies. Aroused by the holy mix and an ‘understanding’ cricket board top entertainment TV channels in India started bidding for major cricket tournaments including the World Cup with the express aim of staging attractive female anchor-commentators, star guests and various glamor-mongering on-field activities.

In the next stage of glamor marketing we could definitely hope to see a mutual mega-mix of models, item girls and cheerleaders. Cheers!

A Short History of Boxing for Girls

Whether it’s boxing for girls or an aggressive bout between two large males, contact boxing is always going to be a relatively dangerous sport which sees a fair amount of head injuries, broken bones and torn muscles. Despite this harsh reality the number of female amateur boxers signing up to classes in their local gym is on the increase, with figures in the UK alone rising from 70 to 900 per annum over just a couple of years. Some believe that this sudden explosion of interest has to do with the strengthening independence amongst single women these days, although it is more likely attributed to the inclusion of a female boxing competition in the upcoming 2012 Olympic Games. In fact it is a relatively exciting time for women’s boxing, which has struggled for many years to find its place within the international sporting stage and be taken seriously by the organizers of male boxing leagues. Finally female boxing tournaments are being aired on popular channels all over the world and a range of major equipment companies have released long lines of equipment geared towards female fighters. Now with the start of the 2012 Olympic Games quickly arriving more and more hopeful future boxing stars are trying to fight their way into the history books, as the first female boxing champion to win an Olympic gold medal; a title that would no doubt propel them into immediate stardom.

A quick look back at boxing for girls

You might be surprised to learn that female boxing has been around since the 1700’s and can be traced back to the grimy back-streets of London where it was practiced by a small group of women for gambling purposes. Shortly after the sport was banned and wasn’t lifted until 1977 when a women’s rights group complained of sexual equality rights infringements. Although female boxing was now legally allowed by law a number of organized boxing leagues didn’t startup until the 1980’s in the US with the rise of the infamous boxing sisters Dora and Cora Webber. It was finally Sweden who hosted the first fully sanctioned all women’s match-up thanks to the well publicized hunger strike by a popular Swedish female boxer wanting more funding and better conditions for women boxers. On the other side of the ocean in the USA a young 16-year old amateur boxer ‘Dallas Malloy’ decided to fight the removal of a law which prohibited female boxers from being allowed to fight in public matches. On winning this lawsuit Dallas Malloy had the first official amateur female boxing match with ‘Heather Poyner’ and won to become the first woman to hold a lawfully recognized female boxing title.

Now and the future of boxing for girls

It was in the 1990’s that female boxing really took off with the world taking boxing for girls more seriously and champions gaining sponsorship from a number of the large sporting goods companies. Some of the more well known matches include the 1996 match-up between Christy Martin and Deirdre Gogarty which gained an unprecedented amount of international TV airtime or more recently the headline fight between Muhammad Ali’s daughter (Laila Ali) and Jaqui Frazier, which lasted several heated rounds before Laila took the match. Although one of the most iconic and fully sanctioned fights that scored another victory for women’s boxing was the first official man versus woman match against Margret Mcgregor and Loi Choi held in 1999.