The Habit of Masturbation in Girls

Masturbation is a term applied to a bad habit which consists in handling and rubbing the genitals. It is a bad habit because it is apt to injure the health and future development of the girl. The more frequently it is practiced, the more injurious it is. It is more injurious than when practiced by boys, because the effects are usually more permanent. Girls who indulge in the habit of masturbation to excess not only weaken themselves, become anemic and get a dingy, pimply complexion, but they lose their desire for normal sexual relations when they grow up, and are unable to derive any pleasure from the sexual act when they get married. Many girls who masturbated excessively get a strong aversion to the normal sexual act, and their married life is an unhappy one.

The habit is much less widespread among girls than it is among boys. The girl who value her health, her beauty and proper growth and mental development, should not indulge in it.

The behavior of parents – The behavior of some parents when they discover that their child is fondling its genitals or indulging in masturbation, they feel as if a great calamity had befallen them. Imbued with the medieval idea of the sinfulness of the habit, as well as its injuriousness, they begin to scold the child, to frighten it, to make it believe that it is doing something terrible, that it has disgraced them and itself, and they try to persuade it that, unless it stops immediately, the most direful consequences are awaiting for her. The result of this mode of procedure is disastrous, much more so than is the masturbation itself.

The parents and physicians should learn that the injuriousness of the habit has been greatly and grossly exaggerated. It is time that they know that the vast majority of boys and girls get over the habit without being much or any, the worse for it. If the matter is look at in a sensible and common sense way, to tell the child caught in the practice that it has done something disgracefully vicious and criminal, but speak to the child kindly and tell him or her that what he or she is doing may secure serious injury, that it may interfere with his or her future mental and physical health and development, then they shall have far greater success in their endeavors to break the boy or girl of the habit.

Denouncing even the most moderate indulgence in masturbation as a vice has an injurious effect upon the person who so indulge and makes it harder for her to break off the habit. The victims of the habit consider themselves degraded, irretrievably lost. They lose their self-respect, and on the account of that, makes it harder for them to break themselves from the habit.

The prevention of the habit – One of the major ways of preventing the habits is to carefully watch the child from its earliest infancy. Although, oftentimes, the vicious or stupid nursemaids, governesses, ignorantly or maybe deliberately, induce the habit in children under their charge and this of course must be prevented. The children from the age of nine, ten and eleven years old should not always be left alone, but always being under supervision. And also too close friendship between boys and girls, especially of different ages, should be looked upon with suspicion.

The sleeping together of two in the same bed, whether it be two children or a older person and a child, should not be permitted under any circumstances. The child, either boy or girl should sleep alone, on a rather hard mattress, and the covering should be light. A decorative bedspread maybe put over the feet. The child should always sleep with the arms out upon the cover and never under. If this practice is started in a child from childhood, it will be very easy to get used to the way of sleeping, and many case of masturbation will be rid-off.

If any attempt is made to watch the child, he should be so carefully surrounded by vigilance that he cannot possibly transgress without detection. If he is only partially watched, he will soon learns to elude observation, and thus the effect is only to make him cunning in his vice.

Hot baths are also very injurious for young children in their influence in the case of masturbation. Even on adults, a hot bath has a stimulating effect upon their sexual desire. Every factor which is liable to give rise to the habit of masturbation should be removed. Some people will abstain from handling themselves with their hands, but will practice what is known as mental masturbation. Which is, they will concentrate their minds on the opposite sex, and will picture to themselves various lascivious scenes, until they feel satisfied. This method is extremely injurious and exhausting and is very likely to lead to neurasthenia and a nervous breakdown. This habit is even more injurious than the regular habit.

In adults or youths, a different plan must be pursued. Moral considerations, and the inevitable consequences to health of body and mind, are the chief influences by which a reform is to be effected. The considerations may be urged with all possible eloquence and earnestness, but should not be exaggerated. If there are any special influences which may be brought to bear upon a particular individual, these should be promptly employed and applied in such a manner as to secure for them their full bearing. But although, the most to be done, must be by the individual himself. All that others can do for him is to surround him with favoring circumstances and arouse him to a proper sense of his real condition and danger. If this can be thoroughly accomplished, there is much reason to hope, but if the individual has become so lost to all sense of purity, all aspirations toward good and noble objects, that he cannot be made to feel the need of reformation, then his case has become hopeless.

Work is also an excellent remedy, work that will really make the victim very tired, so that when he goes to bed he will have no disposition to defile himself.

How a person can help himself.

I. Begin the work of reform by purging the mind. If a lewd thought enters the mind, dispel it at once. Cultivate a loathing for concupiscence. Never harbor such ideas for an instant, for they will surely lead to overact. If peradventure, the physical sin should not be committed, the thought itself is sin, and it leaves a physical as well as a moral scar almost as deep and hideous as that inflicted by the grosser crime.

II. Avoid solitude, for then is when temptation comes, and you are most likely to fail. Avoid equally all other causes which may lead to the act.

III. As a help to purity of mind, whenever impure thoughts enter, immediately direct the mind upon the purest object with which you are acquainted. Flee from the special exciting cause, if there is one, and engage in some active labor or other exercise that will divert the mind into another channel.

IV. Strictly comply with all the rules laid down for the cultivation of chastity and the maintenance of continence.

V. And above all, seek for grace and help from the source of all spiritual strength in every time of temptation, relying upon the promise, “seek, and ye shall find.”

Coaching Girl’s Soccer – How to Go About it and Make Some Good Money

Nothing is fun like coaching girls. They are full of zeal and affinity to learn a trick or two. Soccer is one of the most interesting sports and girls love it. Nowadays, football has become a very significant sport across the world and the media wants to project the sport as a very dynamic part of our society. People actually are investing in football and even creating special television channels to air football. The development of football skills in girls is becoming a top practice which you too can engage in.

If you have some soccer skills, you are off to some very interesting and also very rewarding coaching career. The way to get these coaching jobs is actually tricky if lack the know-how but so easy if you have the skills and the know-how to approach it and the school administration.

Here are some tips about how to get yourself a coaching job with you local girl’s schools or social club.

Assure the head teacher that you are experienced, skilled and a disciplined.

Show leadership and a drive to deliver and guide these girls not only as great soccer players, but also responsible young women who will take you place in future as a leader and very resourceful person.

Once you do that, no head teacher or principal will be ready to think twice. Charge well since these are contracts which can end up being long term commitments. You already got yourself a job. If you deliver great results, certainly you will be the most sought after coach in the area then the district to a far much greater level.

How to Get a Girl to Desperately Want to Sleep With You

This is probably the biggest question that every man has – to get a girl to sleep with him! After all, this is what ‘seduction’ is all about – getting her into the bedroom. While many men seem to struggle in this area, master seducers have known the secrets to making any woman want to sleep with them. Read on to discover the secret techniques that they use and achieve mind blowing results fast…

How To Get A Girl To Desperately Want To Sleep With You – Three Essential Steps

Step 1. Build Attraction. This might be just a little tad obvious, but it is surprising how many men miss this completely. In order to make a girl want to sleep with you, you must first make her feel attracted to you in the first place.

The biggest mistake that a man can make is to make her feel COMFORTABLE with (instead of ATTRACTED to) them. If they are comfortable without any attraction, they will relegate you into the ‘friend‘ zone – not pleasant!

Step 2. Build “Dissonance”. This is where my method departs from the others you may get from other ‘dating gurus’ – once you have built attraction, then you will need to make her feel ‘confused’. You must make her feel frustrated – which is then translated into sexual desire and energy. This is why ‘make up sex’ often is great – because all the anger is channeled into the sex!

How do you build ‘dissonance‘ then? Easy. Tease her and be slightly challenging. Be aware that you do not need to come across as cocky – just show that you have your own opinions, and you do not need to suck up to her at all.

Step 3. Fractionation. This is the final step where you bring her through an emotional rollercoaster, so that she experiences both sad and happy states. In the process she will be made emotionally dependent on you. This is done through associating her happy states to you – thus making her ‘addicted’ to you emotionally.

Once you have done the three steps, it is trivial to get her to sleep with you – in fact she  will often drag you to bed!